I’ve just read Sam Harris’ short book on ‘lying’.
I’m going through a bit of a rough time in my life at the moment, which has necessitated a kind of self-personality reboot. I’ve been forced to take a long, hard, honest look at myself in the mirror and make some real life changes. I’ve discovered who I really am, and although there are a lot of things about me that I really like, I need to make some significant changes if I’m going to become the person I actually want to be.
In his book, Sam Harris proposes that all forms of lying, even the little white lies, are dangerous, damaging, and promote ill-fated poor relationships with other people. I think he’s right and, on reflection, it is the very act of ‘lying’ that caused my life to self destruct and triggered a domino of consequences, the biggest and most damaging of which was the breakdown of my marriage to the most important person in my life. If only I had been completely honest, mainly with myself, then I could have prevented my self destruction and my marriage would never have been placed in jeopardy.
Sam Harris makes a lot of interesting observations in his book, which have caused me to take pause and consider the lies I tell on a daily basis. Most people tell some lies each day, I think. Some more than others. But Sam puts forward a good case for rejecting the urge to lie (even the white lies you may tell to avoid embarrassment or offence) and to put your trust in the open and honest truth, instead.
How would your relationships change if you resolved never to lie again? What truths might suddenly come into view in your life? What kind of person would you become? And how might you change the people around you?
It is worth finding out.
– Sam Harris